Tuesday, October 27, 2020

The Boy from the Woods by Harlan Coben

 When someone recommends a mystery to me, I'm always hopeful it will be as good as one of Sue Grafton's. When I asked my long-time friend June what she had read and liked lately, she mentioned this one. On the strength of that recommendation, I ordered a used copy from Amazon. I happily noted that this author is prolific, so if this one is good, I have a line on more. Woohoo!

I did enjoy this one, but it's not in the LOVE column. There are clever moments and witty dialogue, but not near the Grafton standard. I enjoyed the setting, and how many 70-year old successful women lawyers are there around? Who also have their own popular TV show? Who have a love-interest? Of course I would enjoy a main character like that... The "boy from the woods," Wilde, is an interesting mix of a character--unable to bond, living in a little globe but still connected to his godson... 

I didn't love the cruelty of the high school students to each other,  nor the over-the-top antics of the ueber-rich family the story centers around. What was interesting, though, was the Trump-like character and his rise to political infamy. The description of the way social media and bots are used to further political agendas was instructive and rang true, even if its depressing. As we're in the midst of an ugly election, I kept sensing similarities that we are living through right now. 

If one easily comes to hand, I might try another one by this author. I appreciated the occasional humor, the clean language, and the unexpected characters. Good mystery twists and turns too! Not too gory or violent. Yes, I might try another.

Monday, October 19, 2020

Half Broke Horses - A True-Life Novel by Jeannette Walls

 When I read the first page of this book, I sighed with pleasure. THIS is the kind of writing I've been yearning for! Interesting characters, insights, and engaging & exciting story. The first chapter about this amazing woman, Lily Casey Smith, immediately drew me in when she was caught in a flash flood and had to climb a tree to save her life. I loved the first-person narrative and her no-nonsense dealing with huge obstacles and seemingly impossible situations. She was brave. She was a problem-solver, she was direct and brazen. 

I knew Walls was a great writer from her first book, The Glass Castle. In it, she describes her childhood growing up with parents who were homeless and determined to stay that way. It is an incredible story, and her mother features prominently in the story. This book is about Walls' grandmother, the woman who raised her mother. Half Broke Horses also describes Walls' mother's childhood and we learn more about her unusual life and determined personality. Three generations of interesting, stubborn, courageous women and the forces that helped shape them come together in these two books. Both are enlightening and entertaining. I learned that the line between mental illness and sanity is very thin... There are only hints of the coming of mental illness in this book, however. 

The story of Casey's life is hard to believe. She was larger than life. She broke horses, even as a child, she taught school in very tough circumstances, she became a pilot, she raised two children, she asked for donations for gas on her travels, she fought for an education and did it piece-meal so she could be hired as a teacher, and she did it all during the Depression and under impoverished circumstances. This is the story of GRIT. When she was helping her husband manage the ranch, raising her children, and teaching school, I wondered if she slept at all. There is no mention of recreation of any kind. 

There is one troubling chapter about her encounter with early Mormons, which doesn't show them in the best light. And the granddaughter's knowledge of these and other events is surely limited, but still it all rings with truth. It's refreshing to read the story of a woman who fought back against so many of the dampers that society was putting on women at the time; yet it's not done in any sort of "cause" way. Lily seems to be the ultimate practical person who just used her own common sense to deal with obstacles. 

Another troubling aspect of the story is Lily's beating of her daughter, Rose Mary. It's told with a clear understanding of how she (Lily, the mother) was out of control. Yet she doesn't seem to wallow in guilt or shame about it. She doesn't dwell in remorse. She moves on quickly. This aspect of her personality called into question for me this mother's role in her daughter's later mental illness. And in the daughter's choice of husband who was clearly more of an adventurer and alcoholic than good family material... 

It's been awhile since I've read The Glass Castle, and I'd like to read it again now, knowing the history of the mother. Another enjoyable aspect of this book is Walls' descriptions of the difficulties of farming and raising cattle in arid areas of Texas and Arizona. The land and weather play a vital role in the challenges Lily faces. It's instructive to read about the way, for example, Lily's husband Jim deals with the water shortages. He figured out how to capture the water from the rain by building dams; something that wasn't typically thought of on private land. I really admired this character, Jim, for his quiet knowing ways with animals and nature in general, including human! 

All in all, this book is a keeper. 

Thursday, October 1, 2020

The Alter Ego Effect by Todd Herman

 I heard a podcaster rave about this book and how it changed his life. The reviews on Amazon had similar stories. It didn't affect me this way, though there are some good ideas. To me it seemed too complicated to create this alter ego, and the research he cited didn't necessarily tie too firmly to the practice he was advocating. The author, Todd Herman, is a coach and "mental game strategist" and not a psychologist, so using the research this way isn't surprising. Still, he makes some good use of strategies... And I probably shouldn't judge the success of his ideas since I didn't try them in their entirety. I just wasn't sold on the whole idea...though parts do ring true and I am trying some of them. Herman's examples are most often from sports, so I naturally took some of his ideas and applied them to my pickleball game. They work occasionally--but, I haven't really given them a fair chance. 

One practice, meditation, that he advocates, clearly has a strong research base. No question there. And his example of how to short cut learning one method of meditating I found very useful. Here's his description: (Page 221)

Sit in a comfortable position. It could be in a chair or on the floor. Pace an object like a ball or a blank piece of paper two feet in front of you. Set a timer for three minutes. During the three minutes, you'll start by visualizing the number 1, on the object. The moment you notice your mind has drifted off of the number 1, visualize the number 2 on the object. Once again, when you've noticed your mind has drifted, visualize the number 3. Continue this pattern until the timer goes off. Whatever number you're left with when the timer goes off is the number you'll want to record somewhere. If you ended with the number 34, then that's the score for this round. You want a lower number next round.

Now do the exercise again, except this time activate your Alter Ego, with your Totem and go through the same process as your Alter Ego. If it's Einstein, be Einstein. If it's an elephant, be an elephant. If it's your strong and resilient grandmother, be her. Then record the number you're left with at the end.

How did it go? Were you better? Was it harder?

The two most common experiences people trying this for the first time are: 1) they were able to beat their previous score by a fair margin; 2) they found themselves looping back and forth between remembering to be their Alter Ego and focusing on the number. 

Either one is a great outcome because, with even more practice, things improve. 

I may give this book another chance...but maybe not. Parts are useful...